Strong dialogues..smart dialogues of Adhu

Adhu is extremely busy this navratri wearing all colourful pavadai's, going around the apartment with bama paati to the beautifully set Durgama pandal and navratri golu in my apartment. So it was the day of saraswati puja and the dialogue went like:
Me: Adhu, wake up amma, today is saraswati puja, u 'll have to keep ur books in front of god
Adhu: No mummy, my books will all get spoiled if i keep it there
Me: (little surprised, as i did not expect this kind of answer): Adhu, no, u should keep ur books and get blessings from God, then only u can study nicely
Adhu: But mumma, i am studying nicely only!!
The way she said cutely, i seriously let her away!!!

The otherday, we were seeing dasavathram movie and Adhu say the last scene where Tsunami hit the shores. Adhu with a serious face asked me what it was! And me being the person I am with her now explaining all big stuff to her, told 'its Tsunami where the waves in the sea will rise to big heights and destroy the city, with the added information of how it attacked Chennai'. She was immediate in revert, 'Mummy, in bangalore there is no sea, so there will be no Tsunami na!! Me and Arvind was stunned and surprised for a minute.God bless her sharpness and just hope she carries it forward!!

         During navratri

Oct 3, 2012

Dear Advitha,


You turned four. So many changes, so many challenges but you have grown up as a big girl. You understand everything; you communicate clearly-change at ease with English and Tamil; love your school; grown up to be naughty; started doing things on your own; love to get dressed up----in total are a lil-big, fun-loving girl

The first half of the year was really challenging---it just went on like:
Me: Advitha put the dress, fast
You: No mamma, I don’t want to put this dress, its not nice (saying u select some weirdo dress)
You did wontedly and unwontedly the exactly opposite of what I want you to do. Then I’ll not speak with you for some time, and then you’ll come saying sorry…so the first half was filled with these episodes…

But what happened during the second half. Either you have grown up or I have started behaving matured-ly with you that I realized we both are sharing so much with each other. You update me with your school stories, school friends, complaints about paati…it’s never got so good before.

Then your travel passion, you were our best travel buddy whether it is the recent wayanad, or cruise or the n-number of Chennai trips.

As your father say, you are just a highly sensitive lady-if we coax you we are the winners, but if we raise our hand or voice, God save us for the rest of the day…

In a year’s time you’ve become an expert in coloring and you are slowly improving your drawing skills as well

Then the important one, I am just amazed by your memory power kiddo!!!How much you remember things!! Like the other day you related indira nagar with your pappa’s office. When asked how? You were ready to answer: “mumma! You remember papa showed us his office when went to Bhuvan’s birthday). And Bhuvan birthday happened atleast five months back…Phew!!!too much!lil lady

You are still an introvert!! Why can’t you say Hi and Bye to people? The more I force you, the more you don’t want to do!!So do it at your own pace!!

You are such a channelized (can read ‘lazy’ as well) kid: you want me get involved with you: be it play dough, kitchen set, reading books, or homework…I need to be a part of it…

How can I forget the amount of importance you give to yourself…One Sunday! I pulled you from the sofa when you went hiding to avoid drinking milk, I certainly pulled you with lil vigor but it was not so bad. For a lil strain, God! How much you cried! You kept your hand so carefully, did not put it down, that we got tensed and took you to a hospital for an X-Ray that was clean and clear…Phew!!Very high maintenance.

But how much you understand the travails of a working mother.While i am loaded with guilt for not spending enough time with you, you have clearly understood the fact of me working. Never I have seen you crying while leaving to office or never i have seen you not welcoming me with a smiling face while i am back..it means a lot to me dear gal!!
All said and done, you are growing up to be my best friend, though you adore and love your papa, you are certainly a mummy’s girl.i can see that in you. its such a great feeling Adhu to get loved so much…Not to forget, your growing love for your bama paati…

Have a great time dear, be happy and healthy my lovely lil baby …

Luv you

Amma

Advitha's first PTM-Junior KG

Last Saturday we had been to Adhu’s first parent- teacher meet. I was curious and excited as it was the first one in Junior KG and its been 3+months since she is into the class. Every day she is excited to go to school and I was keen to know to what drives her excitement. But to my surprise, her ma’am stated the following:


As stated by her ma’am

• “Advitha is very playful, not interested in writing, she does not want to sit at a place, always wants to be roaming, but when it comes to dance and music, activities, she comes first. So you should give her writing practice, pamper her less, she should get serious about writing and other academic stuff”…

When her ma’am was speaking half way, I saw my lil girl-speaking with her friends, playing with them, laughing out heartily, showing me the puppets she did, and running around her class with full excitement. Well! Though I was lil concerned on her ma’am’s apprehensions but my girl who was a complete introvert is now blossomed into a fun, loving girl.

We thanked her ma’am and drove back home. I was thinking aloud. Why should stop her excitement and make her more serious. I was always serious about everything since I was a kid, be it studies, or even a class test I was too competitive, I think for a few extra marks I would have lost many moments of childishness, even good friends. I don’t want the same to happen to my lil one. Her ma’am was alerting that very soon they would start ascending, descending order, writing word’s blah blah. I think all these things can wait. Me and her dad were good in our studies. So that gene should be in her. Though it is dormant now, why should I unnecessarily trigger it?

By the time I reached home, I found a satisfactory answer to myself and gave a big hug to my gal. And to my surprise I found this in her report card, posted in the school’s website:

“Advitha Aravind is a happy,fun loving and expressive child.With little support she completes assigned tasks. She loves music and she is good in singing.”

Well Ma’am, we understand that you were very cynical in your verbal comments. But whatever she enjoys coming to you everyday